The Untold Truth Of Buddy Valastro's Wife, Lisa

"Cake Boss" star Buddy Valastro's wife Lisa Valastro is a reality TV star in her own right. She's been a recurring character in the reality television series Cake Boss that shows the goings-on inside the famed Carlo's Bakery — Buddy's family business — in Hoboken, New Jersey. Most episodes revolve around the Boss and his family of sisters, brothers-in-law, aunt, and cousins whipping up pastries and conceptualizing larger-than-life cakes. And then there are some episodes that delve into the private life of Buddy and Lisa, with cameo appearances by their four children Sofia, Buddy Jr, Marco, and Carlo. With the main spotlight always on the cake decorating maestro, what we see in the show are only fleeting glimpses of Lisa.

For Buddy, Lisa is his best friend, an "incredible, supportive wife" and an "amazing, caring mother." The couple renewed their wedding vows on a Disney cruise a decade after they got hitched in 2001 — this time in the presence of their children. The duo has it sorted out when it comes to dividing responsibilities. "He is the cake boss, I am the cook boss," Lisa said in an episode of The Chew. While Buddy takes care of the bakery business, Lisa has things in control at home. She plays the bad cop with the kids, while Buddy slides easily into the good cop role. She and Buddy, as it turns out, have never had a fight! Here's all you need to know about the woman behind the Cake Boss' success. 

While Cake Boss gives a good peek into the personal lives of Buddy and Lisa Valastro and their kids, Lisa's podcast "What's up Cuz?" takes it up a notch. Co-hosted with comedian Erica Spera, producer of 607 Comedy, the podcast covers all that goes on in the Valastro family when the cameras are off.

In the podcast, Lisa candidly talks about the challenges that come with being the wife of a popular television star, and a social figure herself. "Before 'Cake Boss' started, I never really pinpointed all the imperfections in my body. Until, unfortunately, social media started pinpointing it out for me," she says in an episode of the podcast. Even if she tries her best to look decent standing next to her celebrity husband, she adds, people would still find something wrong with her appearance. Sadly, for Lisa, it has gotten to a point that she doesn't feel like posting a photo on Instagram (where she has 664,000 plus followers) anymore.

The episodes give an unfiltered view of the Valastro household, where kids have curfews, and holiday get-togethers are a big celebration – like in any other normal family. The weekly podcast was launched in July 2020, and was listed among the iTunes Top 20 podcasts in October 2020.

Lisa is a first-generation Italian-American. Her mom, Gloria Belgiovine is an immigrant from Molfetta in Southern Italy. Lisa was the oldest child and the oldest grandchild in her family. "My mom and dad were so strict with me," she said in an episode of "What's Up Cuz?." She was allowed to go to movies on Friday nights only. But there were rules even around that. "I had to be home by 9 p.m., but the kicker is while I was in the movie, I had to get out every hour to go to the payphone to call my mom and check-in!" she added. And this was the '90s, when the majority of people didn't own a cell phone. 

But, defending her folks' strict parenting style, Lisa said that as immigrants fresh off the boat from Italy, "they did their best for what they knew!" A mother of four, Lisa is a relatively less strict mom. She is okay with her teenage daughter, Sofia, and son, Buddy Jr, dating and going to parties, as long as they are back by midnight. She is opposed to the idea of them taking Uber all by themselves though. She would rather drive them from one party to another, even if that means that she has to wait in the parking lot for two hours (via "What's up Cuz?").

While Buddy Valastro can whip up many a mouthwatering cake, when it comes to cooking at home, his wife is the boss. Lisa has a 26-episode show called "Lisa's Home Cooking" on Cake House — Cake Boss Buddy's official Youtube channel. Launched in 2018, it was initially called "Easy Italian with Lisa Valastro," and the first five episodes — all done in January 2018 — had the reality star demonstrating how to cook popular Italian dishes such as bruschetta, fresh tomato sauce, egg balls, roasted tomatoes and garlic spaghetti, and cacio e pepe (pasta with cheese and pepper). In February 2018, the show was renamed "Lisa's Home Cooking," and it continued until January 2019.

Some videos are shot in her home kitchen in New Jersey, and some in the outdoor kitchen of the famy house on the Jersey shore. The show gives a generous glimpse of the "Cake Boss" family's kitchen, while also revealing interesting trivia about Lisa herself. For example, now we know that Lisa's favorite vegetable is zucchini and her favorite kitchen tool is a garlic press. She said: "This tool travels with me everywhere. If I have to cook somewhere, this always goes in my pocketbook" (via TLC).

All the dishes featured in the show are made with fresh ingredients. They're what Lisa makes at home for her family. They even include her children's favorites: mashed sweet potatoes with marshmallows and sugar, and a pasta and broccoli one-pot meal. 

Buddy and Lisa Valastro knew each other growing up. Buddy's second cousin and neighbor was Lisa's best friend. "We used to see each other all the time when we went to visit," she said in an interview. Things never moved further, until one Christmas, Buddy's cousins came from Italy to visit, and one of them asked her to join them for clubbing. That was the first time they went out together — she was 19 and he was 22. "We were inseparable ever since," she said in an episode of "Cake Boss." 

Buddy was just a baker back then, with no clue of the fame that awaited him. He had to drop out of high school to manage Carlo's Bakery after his dad passed away (via Delish). In the initial years at the bakery, Buddy worked late nights. Lisa would bring him food and hang out watching him decorate, he said. They tied the knot in October 2001. It was not until 2009, when "Cake Boss" launched, that Buddy and Lisa's life changed forever. 

Carlo's Bakery became so popular that the line for the bakery went around the block. While before, she had her husband all to herself, after the show began, she said, "I share him with millions of people." While she accepts that it is stressful at times, she wouldn't trade her life situation for anything else for she knows it's her Buddy's dream come true.

Lisa Valastro's mother Gloria Belgiovine, who appears in many episodes of "Cake Boss," has her own bakery called Gloria's Amazing Cookies. The brand offers freshly baked biscotti cookies with hazelnut chocolate, sugar powder heart cookies, hazelnut chocolate pie, and more. The recipes for the cookies have been passed down for generations and are the same that Belgiovine's grandmother used to make for her growing up in Italy.

Belgiovine has studied culinary sciences and managed businesses such as a pasta factory and a pizzeria and deli. She co-runs the bakery with Yvonne Rodriguez, who previously owned a line of fashion boutiques. Announcing the launch of her mom's business in August 2020, Lisa wrote in her Instagram post, "My mom launched her very own cookie business, something that she always dreamed of. These are the cookies we grew up eating and now my kids are also making and enjoying them!"

Cookies aside, Belgiovine was instrumental in introducing a new tradition in Carlo's bakery. Buddy writes in his book "Cake Boss: Stories and Recipes from Mia Famiglia" that it was upon seeing Belgiovine in the midst of her annual tradition of making fresh tomato sauce from the last of the season's tomatoes that he decided to turn his bakery into a sauce factory for a day and make sauce out of ten bushels of tomatoes. The result came out so well that he decided to continue it as a tradition at the bakery every year.

For Lisa Valastro, it took a few years to get used to the constant presence of a camera crew at Carlo's Bakery. She said in an episode of "What's up Cuz?" that "I was never on camera before, I was never in the TV business. I didn't know what to expect. All of a sudden you wake up one day, and there are 15 camera people and sound people listening and looking at every single move you make." Now, with "Cake Boss" running for over a decade, the crew has become like their family, she said. "I have even let them into my delivery room. You've got to feel real comfortable to do that," she said.

The delivery of Lisa and Buddy's fourth son, Carlo Salvatore Valastro (named after Carlo Guastaferro, who established Carlo's Bakery that was later bought by Buddy's dad), was recorded as part of an episode of "Cake Boss." There were two camera guys, two sound guys, and 15 producers in the room next door who were in charge of filming the birth of baby Carlo for the "Cake Boss" episode.

The camera people could only shoot from behind the head, of course. Lisa said that the only reason she okayed filming the delivery was that it was her fourth and she knew what to expect. That, and the fact that — lucky for her — her delivery was easy, she said.

With four kids in the house, a celebrity husband, and a large extended family, life can be pretty chaotic if not well-planned. And Lisa knows that. This is why, at the beginning of the week, she makes a run to the supermarket and decides her menu for the week based on what looks fresh. Her idea of a meal is usually a combination of vegetables, proteins, and carbs (via "What's up Cuz?").

Sunday, in the Valastro house, is synonymous with tomato sauce. Lisa makes the fresh tomato sauce with six pounds of Jersey plum tomatoes, enough to last the week. The sauce can be coupled with pieces of meat, meatballs, or pasta. "My mom taught us how to make the fresh tomato sauce. It was a Sunday tradition in my house. We did it so many times that it's such a second nature to us right now," she said in an episode of "Lisa's Home Cooking."

When it comes to preparing dishes for the holidays, Lisa has a whole different game plan. She decides on a menu and starts prep work three days before Christmas. With two days to go, she cleans the vegetables and makes her lasagna. One the day before, she cooks the vegetables. On Christmas morning, all she has to do is heat the trays of food in the oven and get ready for the party.

Let's not compare her baking skills with that of her husband, who has made a 14-feet-long 1,000-pound alligator cake for the New Jersey Aquarium among other equally wild creations. While Lisa Valastro hasn't attempted anything as adventurous, she sure has been sincere with baking a cake each year for the Cake Boss' birthday on March 18.

In 2018, she made a four-tiered cake covered with Reeses. "It's a tradition for me and the kids to make Dad his birthday cake every year! It usuuually falls over before he even gets home but for a few minutes, it looks pretty great," she wrote on Instagram. In 2019, the cake was a massive three-tiered one loaded with wafers, cookies, and mini doughnuts on the sides.

The passion for baking runs in the family. Their daughter Sofia, who has appeared in several episodes of "Cake Boss," makes eye-popping ice cream cone cupcakes and cake pops with ease. In one video, she, along with her youngest sibling Carlo, makes a rainbow tie-dye sprinkle cake that looks like something that would go right on her dad's bakery shelf. Their son Buddy Jr's M&M chocolate chip cookie ice cream sandwich-making process almost seems like child's play. Only, in reality, it's quite an extensive process.

Lisa Valastro shared a "before and after" collage of herself in August 2019. In the "after" image it was quite apparent that Valastro had lost oodles of weight.  Her fitness secret, as it turns out, is jumping on a mini trampoline. She wrote, "I recently started working out at Perspirology in Sea Bright, New Jersey taking the bounce classes, I have to say I am so happy with my results!!" She added, "[the instructors] show you proper technique and form and it's so much fun, on a trampoline. I've never had so many people tell me how fit and toned I look, I've worked out my entire adult life but never seen results like this." 

The positive results, she wrote, have made her rely on the one-hour workout session every morning. To ensure that she doesn't miss a day, she even has a mini trampoline set up at her home. Talk about having a healthy obsession! "Not only is it a great work out it is a complete stress relief!!" she concluded.

Buddy Valastro, who often blamed his extra pounds on his wife's delicious cooking, also shed a significant amount of weight in 2018 and credited the Optavia program for his transformation. In the Optavia diet, you are allowed to take only the pre-packaged meals that are sent to you, and nothing else. These have low calories, are protein-based, and include probiotics (via Women's Health).

"Cake Boss" did turn Lisa Valastro into a reality TV star. Along with the popularity came invitations to be featured in other shows. One of them being a reality dance show called "Dancing Brasil," which is similar to "Dancing with the Stars" in the States. The mom of four learned a whole sequence of Cha-Cha-Cha and performed it along with her professional dancing partner for an audience that also included Buddy. She wrote in an Instagram post, "Signing on to Dancing Brazil was hard for me because it meant being away from my children and I was so worried to leave them for the first time but everyone told me to take the chance and I'm so happy I did!"

Lisa and Buddy have also appeared together in a variety of shows — including the Valentine's Day special episode of "The Chew" in 2018, in which Lisa makes linguini with clams and lobster (a dish she has been making every Valentine's Day since 2002) and "The Rachael Ray Show" in which the couple makes chicken saltimbocca. Lisa appeared all by herself in an episode of Hallmark Channel's "Home and Family" in which she cooks meatless meatballs, a recipe that has been passed down in her family over generations. She also appeared in "Say Yes to the Dress" with Buddy's sisters.

What do a NASCAR car, Betty White, and Lisa Valastro all have in common? Buddy Valastro has made life-size replicas of all of them. He made a life-size cake for his wife as a surprise on her 30th birthday. "That was the first life-size cake I ever made. I would make jokes to her, saying one day I will make a life-size cake of you," he said in an episode of "The Chew." Well, he did finally do it. In an episode of "Cake Boss," he unveils the cake before a room full of people after waxing eloquent about how his wife has been his rock throughout his career.

The cake sure was the same height as that of Lisa, but as she herself said in the show, "It doesn't really look like me, but it is the thought that counts." Making a life-size cake of something, as with tailoring a suit, requires the person's measurements. And since Buddy wanted the cake to be a surprise, he had to be sly about approximating her hand and hip measurements. "The week he was making that cake, he would come up to me and hug me a certain way. And feel me, and I am like, 'What are you doing?'" she added with a laugh.

In 2018, Buddy threw another surprise party for Lisa where the cake featured heels — which Lisa has said are one of her biggest weaknesses.

In September 2020, the worst that could happen to a baker happened to Buddy Valastro. His right hand, the dominant one, got stuck in a bowling pin-setting machine, inflicting nerve damage and causing the baker to lose mobility in that hand (via USA Today).

Valastro's right palm was impaled by a 3 cm long blunt pin, leaving it quite bloodied. On seeing the injured hand for the first time, Lisa recounts in an episode of "What's up Cuz?," "I was a surgical tech back in my day, so it's not like I can say I didn't see gory stuff in the operating room. But what went through my mind, at that first instance, was the pain that my husband must have been in." Lisa held herself together and busied herself with planning the best care for her husband. She told herself, "if I start acting crazy, who is going to be there for [my husband and kids]?"

Fast forward to a year since, and Valastro is almost fully recovered. "My wife has been amazing. She's been a trooper," Valastro told People. In fact, the episode even strengthened their bond. "After you have an injury like this, and your wife helps you dry you out of the shower, that crosses another level. You get to really know each other and love each other and be there for one another," he said.

In 2021, Lisa Valastro underwent hysterectomy after suffering repeated bouts of pain. The doctors had to remove her right ovary, fallopian tubes, and uterus after they found a cyst. In an episode of "What's up Cuz?" she said that ovarian cancer ran in her family and her grandmother had died of it at the age of 49. Though the surgery went well, Lisa recollects experiencing extreme night sweats "that I never in my life would have ever dreamed of." Meanwhile, Lisa, in another episode of "What's up Cuz?," shared with her listeners that she was diagnosed with fibroadenomas or non-cancerous breast tumors and had to make a choice between getting either a mastectomy or signing up for a life of regular biopsies.

Lisa has had breast issues since the age of 19 when she found a bump on one. Though it was surgically removed, she said, since then, she has had to go for regular mammograms and ultrasounds to keep an eye on the condition. Though nothing life-threatening has been discovered, it is necessary that she be on high alert. She described her condition as, "If you are looking at a beautiful clear night sky and you are seeing thousands of millions of stars out there, that's what my breast looks like — a bunch of white spots on MRI."

It didn't matter that the Valastro family had a watchdog or a topnotch security system installed in their 7,000 square foot home; burglars still found a way of jumping over the gates and trespassing on their property (via NJ). In early 2021, a couple of youngsters made their way into the porch, walked around the house, and peeked in through the windows. Lisa, who later got to see the intruders sneak around, on security cameras, felt "violated," as she said in an episode of "What's up Cuz?." She said that the incident took place at around 6 a.m., right around the time her children took her dog out for a walk. While expressing her horror at the prospect of her kids having to encounter a bunch of robbers, she also seemed to take sympathy at the encroachers.

"They looked young, probably, you know, unfortunately had a rough upbringing, a rough life ... and you have to feel bad for kids like these. I could just hope and pray that they get the help they need," she added. Ever since the attempted robbery, the house, which previously had as many as 24 security and surveillance cameras, has been "upgraded by thousands," according to Lisa.

Keeping up with the pandemic trend of welcoming a pooch home, Lisa Valastro and her family added a new member in 2020: a German shepherd named Duke. This was a big milestone for Lisa, who had never lived with an Alsatian before. While all "Cake Boss" fans know about the family's two tiny Yorkies Bella and Baci, Lisa says in an episode of "What's up Cuz?" that she never had a big dog. So why a German Shepherd now?

Her husband, Buddy Valastro, as it turns out, had a German Shepherd named Duke growing up. "And my husband always talked about his dog Duke, about how loyal he was, about how he loved him," she said. In a March 2020 Facebook post, Valastro posted a picture of their to-be-family member, and wrote, "Trying to convince Lisa to let me get another dog... #threescompany." She didn't need much convincing though. "When someone says they want something ... I try to do my best to make my husband and kids happy. So I went along with it and we got a German Shepherd," said Lisa.

Duke, who is professionally trained, is largely taken care of by Lisa's children, who take him for walks (via Instagram). While Duke is all cuddly with the family, Lisa knows he will watch over the family. "We are living in a crazy world, and you can never be more protective of your family," she said.

As per a survey, 23% of Americans hate it when that strong whiff of weed follows them on their leisurely evening stroll (via Buzzfeed News). So does Lisa Valastro. In an episode of "What's up Cuz?," she recounted the extreme discomfort caused by the smell of weed on the streets of Las Vegas, where she vacationed with her family, including her 10-year-old son Carlo. While reiterating that she is not against anyone smoking weed, and emphasizing everyone's freedom to do what they please, she also expressed her concern for those like her who hate the smell, or worse, get a headache from it. "I can't imagine what my poor little Carlo was feeling," she said. Lisa voiced the need for having designated spots for people to smoke so that the rest of us can walk without pinching our noses shut. "It's not fair that you are invading my air space," she said.

It's not just the smell of marijuana that has Lisa vexed, it's also the recent rules around it. She referenced a 2021 bill signed by New Jersey Governor Phil Murphy, which makes it unlawful for cops to notify the parents of children below 17 years if they are caught in possession of booze or weed. While the bill, according to New Jersey 101.5, was a step towards ensuring that juveniles are not unfairly targeted by the cops, for Lisa the news felt like an assault on her parental rights. 

When Sophia Valastro, Lisa and Buddy Valastro's firstborn, turned 18, Lisa took a while to come to terms with the fact that her daughter had become a legal adult. On the day of her daughter's 18th birthday, Lisa got a letter from her daughter's pediatrician informing her that she no longer had access to Sophia's portal. The letter, Lisa said in an episode of What's up Cuz?, was like a "slap in the face". "It's crazy, I did not expect that," she said. Yet another shocker was when she learned that once Sophia went to college, if there was an emergency, the doctors weren't obligated to call the parents unless Sophia herself gave them permission. 

Meanwhile, she is also concerned about the lacrosse games that her two sons play. "I see how my son gets injured, and the bruises he comes home with and the slashes on the neck ... and I am emotionally invested in this game," she says in an episode of the podcast. Watching her sons get hit by fellow players — and also the extreme violence with which the game is played — has her worrying about the kids' safety, and wondering why only football games have an ambulance on standby and not lacrosse games as well.